Hello Mama. Today we are talking with Dr. Morgan Cutlip from My Love Thinks about relationships. A healthy marriage in pregnancy can be difficult, and we are getting answers today.
Click the link below to Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s blog:
►►► Blog – http://www.mylovethinks.com/blog/
►►► Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/mylovethinks/
It is super important to nurture your relationships, especially once you are pregnant. Having a baby brings in a whole new dynamic to your marriage, and Dr. Morgan Cutlip (relationship consultant) is here to help us. She grew up around this line of work as her dad is a doctor of psychology as well.
She earned her Masters and then went on to earn her Doctorate in Psychology. Years ago Morgan’s dad recognized that he could pinpoint something in relationships that wasn’t working, and he developed a program that has been used by millions of people around the world.
Now Morgan and her dad want to bring that information to you online. Morgan directs research at Love Thinks, LLC to bring you the best evidence-based information for your relationships.
Her published work on How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk won the Family Consumer Science Research Study of the year. She has been a keynote speaker at many events. She has been married for nine years and has two beautiful children.
I want you to click the link below to visit her blog and get to know her. She is also on social media.
►►► Blog – http://www.mylovethinks.com/blog/
Your body is changing, and this changes the dynamics in your marriage. You have to learn how to juggle and balance your life and relationship to have a healthy, thriving marriage with your spouse.
Morgan first says that it is important to remember the normality of things to become imbalanced. It is time to anticipate and adjust.
A recent study shows that 80% of moms think that that it is important to be a “perfect mother.”
Morgan says that we need to squash that thought process. Life is busy, we have a lot to think about in a day, and it is normal to become imbalanced in your relationships. The second piece is that even though imbalance is normal, it is not okay to stay there.
Morgan reminds us that bringing home a newborn shakes a marriage to the core. All of the changes make a relationship very sensitive. Morgan gives the third piece of the equation by saying that you must do regular check-ins and evaluate your needs and expectations in yourself and in your relationships.
You must evaluate your needs and expectations before the imbalance becomes chronic.
Morgan has such a fantastic maxim: Is it a big deals or a little deal? In marriage there are little deals that happen all of the time. We tend to collect “little deals”, harbor them, and sort them in our brain so that we develop hard feelings toward the other.
When we personalize the little deals we end up resenting the other. We tend to put a lot of meaning into these little deals. So, what is the solution? It is important to make as many things “little deals” as possible.
Now, let’s talk specifically about pregnancy and how to balance little things and big things. Morgan gives her words of wisdom on how to calm ourselves down and make what we think are big deals into little deals. Morgan first wants you to give yourself a little grace.
She recommends that you celebrate that pregnancy is a big deal in the beginning and then you must shift your focus. Find things that put your experiences into perspective. When we think about the little things that bring us down then that becomes the overwhelming theme of the pregnancy.
Focus on what you are building, the function of your body, and the experience of growing a human.
Morgan want to encourage you in your pregnancy: education and preparation are key in a fearless pregnancy, labor, and delivery. Morgan encourages anyone who is pregnant or thinking about pregnancy to begin preparing her head, thoughts, and heart for this experience.
Find a community in-person or online. Morgan held onto a big encouragement in her class: “When you get to the place where you feel like you can’t do it anymore than you are almost finished!” This was very powerful for Morgan, and she found it in a class that helped her prepare for the big “birth day.”
Do you want some help making a plan for birth? I have created my FREE Natural Birth Workbook just for you. This 4 Step Process is a great start if you are considering a med-free birth. Download below…
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