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Labor tips for men

pearentlycare — Wed, 29 Apr 2020 13:23:35 +0000

Dad, it is your job to make sure Mom feels safe and supported in labor and birth (even if you hire birth support). Get these three tips that will transform the way that you approach labor and birth with Mom.

1. Get ready now

-Listen to what Mom wants and know her plan

-Talk about your birth fears and desires

-Know about labor and how you want to be involved

-Practice supporting Mom

-Pack your bag and checklist

2. Be close (but not too close)

-Ready to help when needed

-One-word Q&A

-Attentive and engaged

3. Celebrate with Mom and Baby

-Limit focusing on self

-Take pictures

-Be involved

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Disclaimer: This is for educational purposes only. This should not be taken as medical advice or take the place of what your healthcare provider recommends. Please discuss any healthcare information found on this channel with your healthcare provider. Pearently exists as a source of information and knowledge and in no way can we determine whether or not any of the information is specifically best for your individual case. With that in mind, we are grateful to share this information with you and we hope that you find success in your journey to achieve a happy and healthy pregnancy, labor, and birth.

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Can I Have Sex With My Wife During Pregnancy?

pearentlycare — Mon, 18 Mar 2019 06:15:03 +0000

When my wife became pregnant I was VERY curious if this meant NO MORE sex.

Sex during pregnancy is a thought that most men have very shortly after finding out that their wife is pregnant.

I will add, if you were having sex EVERYDAY before she got pregnant then you might be sad to know that it might tune back to 2 – 3 days per week… sorry Bro! There are some women that have an increased sex drive during pregnancy. If your wife is one of those women then congrats, and enjoy the intimate time with your wife.

First and foremost, yes! You can have sex with your wife while she is pregnant. The mucus plug within the cervix protects your growing baby from any bacteria that might try to work its way up into his/her new home.

Now, Mama may not want to have sex, and that is where the discussion between you two must take place.

Your wife is creating a human being inside of her. This takes a tremendous amount of energy, nutrients, and resources from your wife, and it will often leave her tired. So, talk to her, see how she is feeling before you go all out: “Let’s have sex!”

You may be thinking, “What all goes into creating a baby, and how can I help better prepare with my wife for our baby to come?”

Well, I am glad you asked. At Pearently we have a proven process to help Mamas give birth naturally while feeling supported by Dad and a birth coach (Maybe it’s Dad). Annabelle has created an online childbirth class for Moms to take at home (or anywhere). This class has a community where Mom can interact with other Moms and talk to Annabelle on weekly live group video calls.

So, if you want to score some points, you can serve Mom during pregnancy rather than just asking for sex by looking into Pearently Natural Birth course.

In the third trimester of your wife’s pregnancy, she may read that having sex during the final weeks of pregnancy can help to naturally induce labor. This has not been scientifically proven, but it might help. So, hey, if your wife is asking to have sex then enjoy that time with her.

After Birth-day Sex?

What about after your wife gives birth to your new baby? Clinically, most healthcare providers say that you should wait 6 weeks after your wife gives birth. She will go to a doctors visit 6 weeks after giving birth and get the all clear to have sex once again.

Be sensitive though. If your wife tore during delivery, she may be nervous or fearful about having sex again. Make sure you talk about this and hear her out.

Let us team up with you and your wife to help her have the best birth experience possible! At Pearently we have everything she needs for a beautiful natural birth experience.

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Tips For Dad In Labor

pearentlycare — Mon, 18 Mar 2019 06:00:23 +0000

Dad has such an important role in your birth experience even if he is not your birth coach!

You will look to him for strength and encouragement.

Yes, it will be difficult for him to see you in pain, but he will probably see it as one of the most satisfying moments of his life, because you both can look back and know you got through the hard times as a team! So, here are some things we believe your husband should know before your baby’s birth-day. Have him read this to get prepared (or you can read it and summarize it for him).

Make a plan

It is important to start talking about the big birth-day. Labor is not the time to be reading pregnancy blogs, books, or watching YouTube videos. You should be prepared beforehand. There are plenty of online birthing classes. We love Pearently Natural Birth course.

Start with my FREE Natural Birth Workbook! This 4 Step Process is a great start if you are considering a med-free birth. Click the button below to download the workbook…

Pack your Go Bag

Mama will probably have her Go Bag packed beforehand. It is helpful if you have your own things packed as well. Take the essentials, and things that make you feel most comfortable such as a change of clothes, socks, toiletries, medication, pillow, towel, snacks, phone, charger, and camera. Be the one to remember the bags and carry them to the car.

Be patient

Most Mamas labor for hours (maybe 12+ hours) before they even go to the hospital. It is preferable to stay home in the early stages of labor because the hospital may not even admit Mama until she is having regular contraction every 3 to 5 minutes. So, Dad, start to help Mama at home by practicing breathing techniques, timing her contractions, walking with her, and rubbing her back. Take a nap or eat before going to the hospital as things get intense. Just be with her in the time of waiting, and don’t give in to whining or complaining.

Be her advocate at the hospital

Your wife needs you to be the voice for her. She is not able to think clearly and make difficult decisions. It is important that you know her birth plan beforehand, and are willing to be assertive for her. Be willing to stop healthcare providers when they begin to do something you don’t understand or know is not what your wife wants. Ask questions, and make it known that you are paying attention to the details.

Ask healthcare providers questions

The labor and delivery unit is busy, and healthcare providers don’t always take time to explain what they are doing. This is not good practice, but it happens. It is your job to ask what is happening, and why it is happening. Again, be your wife’s advocate and make sure her wishes are coming true if possible.

Be the encourager

It is your time to shine. Suggest that Mom change positions, and help her focus on her breathing. With gentleness, remind her that she can do it. It is important to find strength even if you are not comfortable with medical situations. She needs you to be strong when she feels weak. Be the Husband Hero! She will be so grateful that you were strong and present in her time of need.

Do you want some help making a plan for birth? I have created my FREE Natural Birth Workbook just for you. This 4 Step Process is a great start if you are considering a med-free birth. Download below…

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Tips for Dads During Pregnancy

pearentlycare — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 06:00:52 +0000

You are going to have a little boy or a little girl, and you want to know how you can best prepare to be dad during pregnancy!

5 tips for dads during pregnancy.

1. Be Humble

The reason I say ‘be humble’ is because there will be a lot uncertainties that hit you and a lot of questions you may have to ask in the coming months. There were a lot of questions I had to go to my wife about because she is the woman, her body is changing, and I was no expert in pregnancy at the time. So, I needed to be humble. I had to ask her, “How are you feeling today? It’s the first trimester, you aren’t showing a bump yet, but still, your body is changing… Are you feeling nauseated? Are you throwing up? How are you feeling?” Ask a lot of questions. Take time to be compassionate and caring in all parts of your wife’s pregnancy. Be humble and inquire about her feelings and her day. You want to know, you want to be involved. It takes humility to ask questions to friends, family, and neighbors. Talk to people who have children that are older than you or more experienced because they have been on this journey before you.

2. Be Involved

How can you “be involved”? There are numerous prenatal visits that you should definitely be at with her. Maybe talk to your wife about the ones that are really close together and the doctor just comes in to say, “Hey, how are you doing? Did you pee today? How are you feeling? Great see ya next time!” Maybe your wife can fly solo at those visits. My wife personally did not need me for those quick check-in visits, but the bigger visits I was definitely right there by her side. It was a great time to ask questions, learn, and be involved!

3. Be Understanding

One of the biggest questions men have is… “Can we still have sex?” The answer is ‘yes’. From a health standpoint, it is perfectly fine to have sex during pregnancy (as long as your wife has not been told otherwise by her doctor). There is a mucus plug in her cervix that protects the baby from any bacteria that may try to work its way into the uterus. And it does not initiate labor, though some sites say that it does. Now, it might be that as your wife gets closer to delivery day that she may not want to have sex and that is another area where you can be understanding. Ask her about her preferences. Be willing to talk about it. Remember she might feel sick, she might feel tired, and you might have to go hang out with friends or spend some time with her around the house watching a movie, reading, or taking a walk. Encourage HER! She is growing a child within her, and that is a HUGE deal. Be understanding, appreciative, and be there for her.

4. Be Willing

You are going to be called upon to do a lot. It is much easier for your wife to ask if she knows on the other end of that request there is a willing spirit. So, if you wife asks, “Can you please practice these breathing techniques?”, your response should be “Heck yeah!” NOT “Do I have to… I don’t know, I’m gonna feel so duuumb! I don’t wanna do that.” If you want to be her hero, then DON’T do that. Be excited, be available, and be willing to help her with those breathing techniques. When push comes to shove you are going to be in the hospital, and she is going to need you as her Husband Hero (as I like to call it). Do you want her to look back and either forget you were even in the room, say, “What a tool, he was no help”, or “Wow, he was so willing, he was there for me every step of the way, and I am so grateful!”? Those are your options, man: forgetful, coward, or hero. It is your choice.

Alright now I want to talk about one BIG way you can be willing to help your wife in her pregnancy and birth experience. Take a look at the Pearently Natural Birth online course to help you and your wife get ready for labor and birth. You CAN start this Husband Hero journey by equipping Mom with Pearently to give her all the prep work she NEEDS to be FEARLESS in this journey toward childbirth. Plus she will get support from other Moms in discussion boards! This online class could radically change your family’s birth journey. Click the button below to learn more.

5. Be Praying

Pray for your wife, your child, and yourself. Pray for your wife’s strength, pray that she would be encouraged, pray that she would be full of confidence and power! Prayer is crucial because it supports your wife. It shows that you are not only caring for her with fluffy words, but you are calling on the God of this universe to empower her on this journey. Pray for your child. When I say ‘pray your child’, I don’t mean just pray that the child doesn’t cry a lot, that he/she sleeps through the night, and that he/she never disturbs you. That is just selfish, plus you will probably be disappointed. Be praying for your child’s soul. Be praying that your child would be saved by the love and power of Jesus Christ. God is the one who chooses to love us, God is the one who opens the womb. God does all of these things. So making sure that you are calling on the power of God in your child’s life is instrumental. And it will also encourage your wife that you care so deeply for this child. Pray for yourself that you would be humble, that you would be willing, that you would be understanding, and that you would be committed to this journey with her.

Again, it is your opportunity to equip your wife for this journey. I recommend clicking the link below to check out Pearently!

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